Some will clearly say a big “No” to this question, while some may say a “Yes”. Well, as many would agree with me, there is really no “how to” manual for relationships. If something like that existed, I wouldn’t be writing this and you wouldn’t be reading this either.
Well, “compromise” means creating a win-win situation, where each party gives up something to get something. However, people do not understand that it does not include giving up their happiness.
I’ve heard a lot of people complain bitterly about how many things or people they have had to give up for the success of their relationship,and how all these sacrifices didn’t save the relationship from its eventual dissolution. Why then are you giving up something you will regret later, if your partner doesn’t understand the value of what you’re giving up, then maybe you shouldn’t give it up in the first place.
Personally, I believe that if you value your relationship, you would want to be happy and experience some sense of sanity and calm in it. It would not make any sense then, for you to separate your own happiness from the relationship, because, let’s face it, you are in it to be happier and fulfilled.
However, this does not mean you should be selfish, try to weigh your options and put yourself in perspective, before taking any decision. Instead of giving up something totally, try to do it in a way that it doesn’t affect the two of you. You need to stop acting like there’s a gun to your head, even if there is, this quote by Harvey Specter seems valid at this point.
“What are your choices when someone puts a gun to your head?
Exactly, you do any one of a hundred and forty-six other things. Which brings us back to the question at hand, would you compromise your happiness for the success of your relationship?
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