Getting Back With Your Ex: Yay or Nay ?

 Although breakups are sometimes mutual, there are two primary reasons why relationships fall apart: either he goes or she goes.
If he decides to leave, he is in the driver’s seat, he has very specific reasons why he wants to get out of this thing and move on with his life, and it’s doubtful that he’d ever consider taking her back.

But if she decides to bolt, it’s a totally different story. She can leave him a bewildered emotional wreck, crying in his beer and wondering just what the hell happened.


Many people who try and get back with their ex-partners do so while they are still in a state of emotional turmoil and may not have given themselves a fair opportunity to clarify in their own minds what it is that they really want and whether their ex-partner may be wanting the same thing.   After all, break-ups occur for a reason (or reasons).   If the causes of the break-up are still present and raw for either one or both partners then you could very well be wasting your time (and that of your ex-partner’s) in attempting a reconciliation.

So before you leap without looking, it’s wise to take a breath, examine the reasons your relationship fell apart, and ask yourself, “Do I really want to take her/him back?” Take the time to examine your own motives. Why would you want to take her/him back? Do you truly care for her/him? Or is it because you’re lonely, or afraid you’ll never meet anybody else?

This brings us back to the issue at hand, is it right to get back with your ex?

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15 Questions to Ask Yourself to Keep Your Relationship in Check by Popsugar


It’s important to step back once in a while to check the state of your relationship. After long-term dating, we all eventually get a little lazy in the relationship. We assume our significant others know how much we care and love them, but a friendly reminder never hurts. To see if there’s room for improvement in your partnership and on your end, ask yourself these 15 questions.

  1. When’s the last time I did something nice for my partner without being asked?
  2. Could I be putting more effort into this relationship?
  3. Am I happy with our last interaction?
  4. Could I be more patient with my partner?
  5. Are we doing our best to keep things exciting?
  6. When was the last time I initiated sex?
  7. Do we spend enough time together?
  8. Do we spend enough time apart?
  9. When was the last time we made each other feel special?
  10. Could we be arguing less?
  11. Would I want myself as a partner?
  12. Do we kiss enough?
  13. Are we happy together?
  14. What can I do to make this relationship even better?
  15. Does my partner know how much they mean to me?

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Would You Compromise Your Happiness for the Success of Your Relationship?

Some will clearly say a big “No” to this question, while some may say a “Yes”. Well, as many would agree with me, there is really no “how to” manual for relationships. If something like that existed, I wouldn’t be writing this and you wouldn’t be reading this either.

Well, “compromise” means creating a win-win situation, where each party gives up something to get something. However, people do not understand that it does not include giving up their happiness.

I’ve heard a lot of people complain bitterly about how many things or people they have had to give up for the success of their relationship,and how all these sacrifices didn’t save the relationship from its eventual dissolution. Why then are you giving up something you will regret later, if your partner doesn’t understand the value of what you’re giving up, then maybe you shouldn’t give it up in the first place.
Personally, I believe that if you value your relationship, you would want to be happy and experience some sense of sanity and calm in it. It would not make any sense then, for you to separate your own happiness from the relationship, because, let’s face it,  you are in it to be happier and fulfilled.
However, this does not mean you should be selfish, try to weigh your options and put yourself in perspective, before taking any decision. Instead of giving up something totally, try to do it in a way that it doesn’t affect the two of you. You need to stop acting like there’s a gun to your head, even if there is, this quote by Harvey Specter seems valid at this point.

“What are your choices when someone puts a gun to your head?
What are you talking about? You do what they say or they shoot you.
WRONG. You take the gun, or you pull out a bigger one. Or, you call their bluff. Or, you do any one of a hundred and forty-six other things.”

Exactly, you do any one of a hundred and forty-six other things. Which brings us back to the question at hand, would you compromise your happiness for the success of your relationship?
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Sitting on the Fence – Staying in Touch with your Ex

Lately, I’ve been hearing stories about exes staying in touch , and faking friendship all in the name of not letting go. Blaming it on the fear of moving on , and starting over. 
Well, I have bad news and good news. 

Good: Staying in touch makes it easier for you guys to enjoy perks of being in a relationship without actually being in one. And it’s eases the pain of letting go and moving on. It’s really nothing personal . 

Bad: You both can never move on , finding another partner will become harder, you will lose so many potentials in the long run. One of you will fall in love with another individual and eventually break the heart of the other. 
So is it really worth it ? Sitting on the fence, and prolonging a needed heartbreak. Living in self denial that will only lead to depression. I think not, it’s better to move on and accept fate, not all relationships are meant to work out. 

How Healthy is Your Relationship?

Many people claim or think they are in a healthy relationship, this is totally normal, trust me. It is not abnormal to look at your relationship as a fairy tale in its early stages, but really, what happens when it’s no longer what it used to be?

What many people do not realize is that the ‘rose-coloured’ glasses that make you see your relationship as perfect in the beginning, are in actual fact, ‘blinders’ that keep you from seeing the little problems that show your relationship is not as healthy as should be.

The following tips can help you maintain a healthy relationship:

Effective communication is the pillar and stronghold of any relationship, it is the key to building a healthy relationship. First of all, you both have to be sure that you want and expect the same things, don’t walk into a relationship blindly and expect things to work out the way you want it to – being on the same page is very important.

Also creating boundaries is very essential in any relationship, don’t assume that your partner knows where and when to stop. Create healthy boundaries, and try not to stifle your partner with too many rules, dislikes, always remember that He/She had a life before you. With this in mind, You both should discuss your dislikes, and then reach a compromise that will benefit both of you.

Finally, every once in a while, you both should do something fun, find an activity you both enjoy and engage in it. always strive to keep your spark alive, and try not to let your relationship transcend in something boring and bothersome.

Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship, and it is only fair that both parties work towards it. Do you think you are in a healthy relationship, take this TEST to determine if you are right or wrong.

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Maybe You Need a Break

Ever been in a relationship where you’re in love with your partner but just can’t see through the haze of frustrations?
Perhaps it’s time for both of you to take a break in the relationship, and from each other.
There are many issues that could lead to a relationship break, and it’s important to realize that sometimes, a break is a good idea.
It doesn’t mean that you’ll actually break up. In fact, a break can end up strengthening your relationship – it all depends on what you do when you take a break.
When you tell your partner you need a break, his or her first reaction may be to think that you want to see other people.
However, that’s rarely the case. You might just need to find yourself, to reconnect with who you are as an individual rather than as part of a couple.
Relationships can be tumultuous and passionate. While passion is essential, it can wear you out.
A break to calm down, get yourself collected, and chill out can keep things from burning too brightly. This is one of those occasions when a relationship break is really helpful.
If you’re not sure you’re really in love with your partner, then a relationship break can be hugely beneficial.
As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. If your heart does grow fonder, you’ll know your feelings are true. If not … well, like I said, it’s better to know this sooner rather than later.
One of the biggest misconceptions that people have when it comes to taking a break in their relationship is that their relationship is over. That isn’t true at all! A break doesn’t mean you are breaking up, remember that!
Finally, a break can bring an entirely new sense of understanding between you and your partner. You’ll come back from your break feeling completely refreshed and who knows, maybe you will love each other a little more!

De-stressing and Improving Your Relationship Life

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Stress affects our relationship and love life much more than we are aware of, it is entrenched in our daily lives. It doesn’t become a problem till we ignore the warning signs and pay zero attention to how it affects the people around us.

Ignoring stress doesn’t make it go away, it only ignites it till it becomes a problem. It then becomes so contagious that it starts bouncing back and forth between the two of you. Since you can’t avoid it, you have to be able to recognize and consequently learn how to manage it.

Below are some tips on how to handle stress in your relationship.

Figure Out What is Bothering You

Stress can be tricky. We often say “I’m stressed!” but may have trouble figuring out what exactly is causing it. It’s advisable to take the time to find out what the problem is and then share it with our partner. With increased awareness of what we are worried about, our partners can think of ways to keep from adding to our stress, and If we’re lucky, he/she might just be able to help us deal with the stress.

Stay Connected

Sometimes we spend more time talking with their friends than our partners about issues because we feel our partners might not understand what we are going through. Sadly, turning away from your partner during stressful events can be one of the most damaging things you can do to your relationship. This usually leads to feelings of rejection, frustration and increased anger, which can drive the two of you apart. It is advisable to always talk to your partner and give them the chance to be there for you in your time of need.

Maintain Intimacy

Intimacy is an important part of any successful relationship. Intimacy isn’t limited to sex; it is much more than that. Being intimate with your partner means having deep and unhindered conversations, demonstrating affection as much as possible, and being a problem-solving team. Intimacy makes you open and honest, and when you’re open and honest you are giving your partner a chance to support you and in return, you are more likely to support them when they are stressed. Do not avoid intimacy as it usually ends up being a big mistake, instead embrace it and watch it relieve the tension and anxiety cropping up in the relationship.